6/20/2024
The 33 Project
Hello hello. Hope you’re staying and cool and hydrated. Gonna be a hot one today.
1/ Speaking of heat, read this depressing piece! Thanks, Meg for sharing.
2/ Heather Hogan is back at it with a excellent piece on what it means to be butch. A really beautifully written piece.
This was one of my favorite parts:
Every living being in my life relaxes into my touch. My friends melt into my hugs. My cats seek me out for comfort during storms and for a soft, warm place to sleep. Dogs I’ve never even met lean right into me and wag, wag, wag their butts and tails. And my wife, most of all, softens into a marshmallow every time I reach for her. My hand on her cheek, her neck, her waist, her thigh. My arms wrapped all the way around her. A simple brush of my fingertips and everything else is forgotten. Butch masculinity has nothing to do with cis male masculinity. It’s not guns and threats and an aggressive, entitled gaze. It’s not possessive and insecure and posturing dominance. It’s comfort and security and tenderness, the ability to love fully, the power of knowing exactly who you are. My wife believes that I have the strength and knowledge and fortitude to do literally anything I want to do, but more than that she believes in the kindness of my touch and the wholeness of my love.
